“Experiencing a breakup is not a fun part of anyone’s life. With every atrocity that rears its ugly head, there is always something good, which can be taken from bad situations. The article is about self discovery and peace”
When I experienced a breakup with the woman I love last year, I was devastated tremendously. All I could think of was “I want my ex back”! I came to realize with time that no matter how badly I wanted to rekindle my past relationship, it was not going to happen without some drastic changes on my behalf.
I longed to go back into the past so that I could re-live the moment when she broke up with me. I would have handled things differently. Instead of storming off, I should have told her how much she means to me and that I did not want to go. I would have stopped yelling and instead spoke to her in a manner which she deserved. I know I am currently single due to my own actions and I realize that going back into the past is simply not going to happen. I have to live with the consequences of my actions.
I have a wonderful friend of mine whom I have known since we were twelve years old. He and I have had our shares of difficulties in our lives. He was the first person I thought of to call for advice. He wisely stated to me that unless I relight the fire within my past relationship, there would be no getting back together.
He further explained to me that there are various ways in getting back the person you love but the way we handle ourselves during this trying period of our lives, will determine if we are successful or if we fail. My friend is not a counselor, but I have always taken his advice to heart when it comes to relationships. He has been married for fifteen years and its obvious he knows what he is doing in keeping a marriage together.
Some people downplay breakups while informing you that it simply was not meant to be. This is ridiculous to state to anyone considering the impact a breakup can have on your life. Nothing compares to the pain of a broken heart and unless you have experienced it, you will not understand how it feels.
My dear friend informed me that if I truly loved my ex girlfriend, I should not give up on her. He also recommended that I should focus on myself for a while. This advice was hard to accept because all I wanted to do was beg her back but my friend quickly informed me that begging and pleading is only a temporary fix and I should focus on the long-term affect of my actions, which caused the breakup in the first place.
Unbelievably, I have discovered the negative AND positive sides to experiencing a breakup. I have rediscovered myself and reunited with old friends. I have begun contacting my family more often as well as acquired new hobbies. The negative side of course is feeling the loneliness and despair that comes with losing someone you love.
I will always remember the day when I finally accepted that the relationship was over. I remember how initially, I tried to remind my ex girlfriend that she did not want the relationship t end. This method did not work and she probably did me a favor in allowing me to accept the truth. Accepting the reality of a breakup is never easy but once you perform this task, you will finally experience peace with the situation.
I am a guy and it proves a serious blow to my ego to be dumped by anyone. Do I feel better in accepting the breakup? No, I do not however, finding peace with the situation enables me to focus on my inner demons and flaws. I know my ex will not want me back until I have made much-needed improvements in my life. Do I want my ex back? Of course, I do but first, I need to get my own life back on track.
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