I experienced an emotional breakup with my ex girlfriend. I wanted to resume the relationship as soon as possible but I had to face the reality that this rarely happens. My first instinct after the breakup was to call text and email my past lover. Fortunately, reality sat in and I realized that these actions alone would not bring the person I love back into my life. I want to discuss positive steps to getting my ex back while relaying my story to readers.
Positive step number one
I did not contact my ex for a while. It was temping to contact my ex by any means possible but I resisted the urge to do so. My past love informed me that she needed space; I respected her wishes. Initially I wanted to ignore her request but I quickly realized that I could be misconstrued as a stalker; therefore, I respected her request.
Positive step number two
Even though it was difficult, I accepted the fact that the relationship is over. I did not want to waste my time wallowing in the emotion of denial. I had to allow myself time to begin the healing process. There are times in our lives that we must leave situations up to fate. If the relationship is meant to be, it will happen.
Positive step number three
After giving my ex girlfriend the space she requested, I respected her wishes and did not contact her. After awhile, she did contact me. I feel that allowing our exes to make the first contact is important in getting back together. When I viewed her number on my cell phone, my heart immediately soared. I quickly reminded myself that a simple phone call did not constitute the fact that she wanted to get back together. I waited twenty-four hours and called her back. She did not mention getting back together and merely wanted to talk. I kept the conversation polite and short and informed her I had to be somewhere at a particular time and I hung up the phone with a polite “goodbye”.
Positive step number four
I remember the day my ex called me and wanted to “get together”. I was torn on this issue because frankly, I was still in love with her. I did not know if she wanted to get back together or if she was bored. I contained my excitement and in my most civilized voice, informed her I was free. She suggested that we meet out for coffee the next day. I informed her I was busy that day but I could meet her out the following day at 3 PM (I did not want her to think I was available for her any time she beckoned).
I met her out for coffee on the day we designated and I kept the conversation light. I did not ask her about her dating life. I avoided questions about my own. I was not dating anyone but I did not want her to know this. In my eyes, she lost the privilege in knowing about my personal life when she dumped me (a little bit of bitterness there).
Positive step number five
Eventually, my ex did want to get back together. I immediately wanted to reunite but the fact was, reuniting after a breakup takes time. If you want to do things right, you will hold off on getting back with anyone until the flaws in the relationship are dealt with by both you and your ex girlfriend. I made my ex girlfriend realize that she made a mistake by dumping me with the steps mentioned in this article. We are now reunited but with a better perspective on not only the relationship but also our lives together. I by no means was perfect but I was hurt that my past love dumped me because of a misunderstanding. I wanted her to realize that people are not perfect and relationships should not be lost in the heat of the moment. These positive steps in getting my ex back worked for me as I hope they work for you as well in your journey in dealing with hurtful breakups.
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